Divorce And Family Problems
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My mum and dad are divorced and I live with my mum. My mum has got a new boyfriend and they're always saying horrible things about my dad. I don't get on so well with my dad anymore and I'm scared I'm going to lose him.
It sounds hard to have to listen to horrible things being said about your Dad, but if you could talk to your Mum and explain how it upsets you when they talk about him, they may stop doing it in front of you. You and your Dad may not be getting along at the moment, but that happens even when young people and parents live together, if you can make time to see him and talk about your fears you may find he has fears too, but talking together may help you both.
My mum and dad have split up and I would like to go and see my dad but I don't know how my mum and step dad would react. Most of my friends don't think I should go to see him.
Sometimes worrying about asking to see your Dad is worse than it actually will be. Your Mum will understand you still want to see Dad, it's Mum and Dad who have got divorced not you and Dad. Your friends can't say what you should do only you can decide what's right for you.
I have to move some distance away which means I will not be able to see my father very often. I am really worried about the changes I am going to have to go through.
Moving is scary at the best of times, but it must feel harder when you are worrying about not seeing Dad as often. Next time you see Dad you could try and tell him of your fears and see if you can arrange definite dates and times for you to visit for the next couple of months. Changes can be exciting as well as worrying, if you try to think of the new good things to come, this might help you when you feel scared.
My mum and dad are not happy in their marriage and always argue. I keep getting pulled into the arguments and I wonder whether they would be better off apart. What should I do?
Mums and Dads can be a pain at times, and sometimes they don't realise how the arguments are affecting you, if you could sit them down and explain how their rows are making you worry they may just see what's going wrong, and begin to sort things out themselves even if it did mean they decided to separate. But you can only tell them how hard you are finding it when they try to pull you into the arguments, you love them both and don't want to take sides.
My mum and dad split up some time ago. I moved in with my dad and my mum is being horrible to me. How can I make her see that I am happy and that I still love my mum even though I don't live with her?
Perhaps your Mum feels afraid that you don't love her now you have chosen to live with Dad, but if you talk to her and explain that you always love her but are happier at Dad's, she may understand. You could try to make special time to spend with her by visiting her at her home or going out together for a girlie day like shopping or the cinema then a meal.